Couples Therapy
In person in Fredericksburg, and online across Virginia
Most couples don’t lose love. They lose connection.
And connection — with the right help — can be rebuilt.
Struggles you may be facing
The Same Argument
The same fight keeps happening — different topic, same ending. You are both exhausted by it.
Not Feeling Seen
No matter how clearly you explain yourself, your partner does not seem to understand.
Growing Distance
You love each other but feel like strangers. More like roommates than partners.
Parenting Friction
How you parent has become a source of conflict that is straining your relationship.
Trust That Broke
Something happened — a betrayal, a rupture — and you have not fully recovered.
Old Wounds
Pain from before this relationship surfacing. The past is in the room, & you don’t know how to deal.
Different Conflict Styles
- Same Underlying Need
In many couples, one partner pulls away while the other pursues. Over time those styles harden into frustration and distance. But underneath the withdrawal and the pursuing is the same longing — to feel secure, valued, and emotionally connected.
Specialized Couples Therapy
Feeling More Like Roommates
No crisis, no betrayal — just years of the same cycle pulling you apart until you feel more like roommates than partners.
When the same fight keeps happening and previous therapy has failed or made things worse.
When raising children together is quietly straining your relationship — with Beverly Lemmons, LCSW.
With Chris Biddix, LPC, a retired Navy veteran who understands this world from the inside.
For the partner walking on eggshells — and the partner willing to look honestly at their impact.
Healing from betrayal requires more than trust. It requires specialized training and a structured process.
Premarital Counseling
For engaged couples who want to build something that lasts before the hard seasons arrive.
When one of you is considering leaving and both of you need clarity before a permanent decision.
There is hope for your relationship
Most couples who reach out feel stuck — like the distance has gone on too long, or the same fight has worn too deep a groove to undo. It rarely has.
Our therapists specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a research-based, attachment-centered approach that helps couples move out of painful cycles and back toward each other. EFT was developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg and is widely considered one of the most effective approaches to couples therapy available. Rather than coaching you to simply argue better, it helps you understand the deeper needs driving the cycle — so what felt impossible starts to feel workable.
Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Trauma-informed clinicians
EMDR-trained therapists
Trauma-informed couples therapy
For couples navigating betrayal, infidelity, attachment injury, or shared trauma, healing requires more than communication strategies.
It requires emotional safety.
Our trauma-informed team approach helps couples:
Slow down reactive patterns
Identify deeper emotions driving conflict
Rebuild trust after betrayal
Strengthen emotional responsiveness
Create secure, lasting connection
We work with couples who are dating, engaged, married, or in long-term committed relationships.
How we work
Most couples therapy focuses on communication — how to fight better, how to listen more carefully, how to say what you need more clearly. These things have value. But in our experience they skip something essential.
Before couples can really hear each other, each partner needs to slow down enough to understand what is happening inside themselves. Not in a self-absorbed way — but honestly. What am I actually feeling right now beneath the anger or the silence. Why does this specific thing affect me so deeply. What am I trying to get and why does my way of going after it keep failing.
That kind of self-understanding changes everything. Because the moment you can really see yourself — your pattern, your reaction, what you are actually afraid of — you almost involuntarily start to see your partner differently. Not as someone doing things to you. As someone with their own internal world, their own fears, their own failed attempts to feel close to you.
We also help couples see something most have never been shown clearly: what you do affects me and what I do affects you. The cycle, the distance, the pain — we built it together. And what we built together we can change together.
Every person who comes through our door has good reasons for the patterns they developed. Understanding those reasons does not excuse the impact. But it opens a door that blame keeps permanently shut.
The Research Is Clear
Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most thoroughly
researched approaches to couples work available.
70–75% — of couples treated with EFT move from distress to recovery
90%— show significant improvement
Not because couples try harder.
Because EFT works at the level of the emotional bond — not just the surface conflict.
Meet the Therapists
You'll work with a therapist who has made couples their focus — not a generalist who sees couples on the side. Our team practices at two experience levels, all grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy and trauma-informed care, so you can match the depth of specialization to where you are and what you're navigating. Not sure who's the right fit? Reach out and we'll help you figure it out.
Investment In Your Relationship
Beth Collins, LCSW, CTT — EFT Specialist
60 min $230 · 90 min $345 · 120 min $460 · Intensives available
Beverly Lemmons, LCSW — EFT-Trained Couples & Family Therapist
60 min $175 · 90 min $262.50 · 120 min $350 · Intensives available
Chris Biddix, LPC — EFT-Trained · Military & First Responder Specialist
60 min $175 · 90 min $262.50 · 120 min $350 · Intensives available
Questions about couples therapy
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Research on Emotionally Focused Therapy — the approach we use at We Thrive Together — shows that 70 to 75 percent of couples move from distress to recovery, and approximately 90 percent show significant improvement. Couples therapy works best when both partners are willing to show up and do the work — even if one of you is more hesitant than the other at first. The fact that you're here reading this is already a sign that you care about your relationship.
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This is very common. Many couples start therapy with one partner more willing than the other. We don't require both partners to feel equally ready — we just ask that both are willing to try. Often the partner who was most reluctant becomes the most invested once they feel safe in the process. If your partner is hesitant reach out anyway — we can talk through how to approach the conversation together.
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Most couples therapy focuses on communication skills and conflict resolution strategies. EFT goes deeper — it looks at the emotional patterns and attachment needs underneath the conflict. The argument isn't really about the dishes or the finances. It's about feeling unseen, unvalued, or unsafe. EFT helps couples identify and change those deeper patterns — which is why the results tend to be more lasting.
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Yes. Healing after betrayal is some of the most important and meaningful work we do. Affair recovery requires more than rebuilding trust — it requires understanding what happened in the relationship dynamic, addressing the attachment injury, and creating a new foundation of emotional safety. This work is difficult and it takes time — but couples who commit to it often describe their relationship after recovery as stronger than it was before.
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Couples therapy at We Thrive Together is offered on a private pay basis. Insurance does not typically cover couples therapy. Under very specific circumstances they may see it as medically necessary - please discuss this with your therapist at your first session to determine if you may fall into this category. We can provide a superbill after each session that you may submit to your insurance company for possible out-of-network reimbursement depending on your plan. We have opted out of Medicare entirely — if you are a Medicare recipient we can help connect you with alternative providers. See our full fees and insurance information on the Fees and Investments page.
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EFT is a research-supported approach to couples therapy that treats the relationship itself — not either partner — as the focus. It helps couples move past surface conflict to the deeper emotions and attachment needs underneath, so they can rebuild safety, communication, and connection.
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Yes. Many couples have not lost love — they’ve lost connection. Couples therapy helps you understand the patterns that created the distance and gives you a practical way to feel seen, heard, and known by each other again.
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Yes. Chris Biddix is a retired Navy veteran with 20 years of service. Military families, veterans, and first responder couples don’t have to explain the culture or the cost of the job — he understands it from the inside. See more on our military and first responders page.
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Yes. We Thrive Together offers couples therapy in person in Fredericksburg, Virginia and via secure telehealth for couples across Virginia.
You can change the dance.
If you and your partner are ready to move out of the cycle and back toward each other, we're here to guide you. Reach out and tell us what you're navigating — our team responds within one business day.